The adoption process is a lot of hurry up and wait. It has been exhausting filling out all the required paperwork, getting letters notarized, meeting with the social workers, getting doctor exams, running to Sacramento to get paperwork certified, then taking that paperwork to San Fransisco for authentication, etc. etc. etc. I felt sometimes that I was so involved with getting the requirements for the adoption accomplished that I did not have time to sit down and think about what all this busywork was leading to in the end.
I must tell you that waiting is not one of my strong suits. I am the kind of guy that accomplishes the task as soon as it is given. I don’t let the grass grow under my feet. When I have to wait or rely on other people before I can finish my task, I get anxious. After all, no one can do it better the me! Am I right, or am I right?
We have had, and continue to have, periods in this process that require my patience. Up to now the most difficult wait has been waiting for our homestudy to be finished. We are currently waiting for God to provide us with a bigger van since we will soon be a family of eight.
Yet, there is a point in this whole process where I do not mind the wait so much. The wait for the referral is one of the most difficult, yet exciting waits in the adoption process. The referral is when the agency calls us with our child’s file. When my Sarah was pregnant with our first daughter, I remember being so excited that any day could be THE DAY! It’s kind of like waiting for Christmas morning- except you’re not sure what day Christmas will come. Any day now we will get THE call that there is a baby in China who will be the next member of our family. HOW EXCITING!!!
As we wait I am reflecting on the many blessings God has provided during our adoption journey. He has laid on the heart of our entire family that this adoption is where He is leading us. Any of you with children know that everyone agreeing on one thing is a miracle in itself). When we thought we would not be able to get our dossier to China before some of our paperwork expired, God enabled Homeland Security to approve our I-800A in record time. The government never works that fast. God also continues to provide the financial assistance to make this adoption happen. It is amazing how God provides when we are in the center of His plan.
I have learned that God’s timing is always the best. I am convinced that the extra time it took to complete our homestudy was because our baby was not in the right place to be adopted by us. So God had to slow us down. I am content in waiting for His perfect time and will count my many blessing as I wait for THE phone call. Then the hardest wait of all will begin. The wait to hold our baby for the first time.